I don’t always write about religious topics, but Easter week seemed like an appropriate time to do so.
Because I am a Christian military spouse, there are many times when my faith life has overlapped with my military spouse life. Both are a huge part of my identity: most people who know me as one also automatically know me as the other. I think that it would be very hard for me to survive military life if I did not have faith to hold me together. When I look back at all the crazy stressful situations we have been through, I realize that–in most cases–religion made things a little bit easier. Whether or not you are currently a religious person, you may be interested to see the ways that faith and military life compliment each other.5 reasons life is easier for Christian military spouses #Christian #milspouse Click To Tweet
Five lessons a Christian military spouse knows:
- Religion is always a community: No matter what faith you practice, it is usually celebrated with others. This community can be a huge blessing to Christian military spouses when they arrive at a new duty station. If you stop by the local church or prayer group, you may immediately be invited to a few events and find yourself some new friends. Catholics have an added bonus–they can find a Catholic church anywhere in the world, and it will celebrate the same Mass they recognize from home. This was useful when we lived in Europe. I have attended church in several different languages, but I always knew what was happening and felt like part of the community.
- Patience is a virtue: And boy, will military life teach you to be patient! If you let it, military life can be a very good teacher. You can learn to be more patient, generous with your time, and have more empathy for others. Military life has taught me a lot about trust and letting go, as we wait for orders and clean out the house for yet another PCS move. Sure, military life is frustrating and stressful. But religious people learn to take those challenging moments and learn from them to become a better person.
- Trust makes sense of suffering: I heard this at church recently in regards to the suffering of Christ on the cross. I realized it is also true for the stress and anxiety surrounding deployments. There is physical and mental anguish when you are separated from your loved one and don’t know when you will hear from them or if they are ok. The only thing that can make this burden lighter is trust. I can trust that he is well trained and prepared for war. I can trust in his team and his unit. I must have faith in his commanders and trust that they will give good orders. I have to trust that he is safe and that I will see him again. Faith is the only thing that makes sense out of the suffering of deployments for a Christian military spouse.
Want to know which bible verses are most encouraging during deployments? I have two pages of quotes in my Ultimate Deployment Guide, available here.
- We are in the world, not of it: In the Bible, Christians are reminded that even though they live in the world, they are not made for this earthly life. They are made for heaven. That is part of the reason Christians are encouraged not to focus on earthly treasure, titles, fame, and glory–they are only passing through this world, and those things won’t be important in heaven. Christian military spouses can relate to this. Whenever you move to a new base, you may live in the town, but you know that you are not from the town. In fact, you will probably leave it behind in a few years. We learn not to invest in souvenirs that can be easily broken during a move. Military spouses know from experience that people are worth more than things. This is one of Christianity’s tougher lessons, but military spouses learn it automatically after a few PCS moves.
- Offer it up: As kids, any time we complained about being uncomfortable or things not being fair, we were told to ‘offer it up.’ This is a way of encouraging someone to offer up their sufferings as a way to gain empathy or relieve the sufferings of others. In military life, we say ‘Suck it up, buttercup’ or ‘put on your big girl panties.’ The principle is the same, but the Christian version offers a reason for the suffering. Our sacrifices can be useful to help others. If you have a horrible experience getting settled on a new base, don’t just suck it up. Try to offer it up to others–ask around for advice, offer to help other new families as a sponsor, or write a book with tips for moving to that installation. (That’s what I did for Naval Station Rota, Spain!) Our sacrifices are much easier to bear when we offer them up for others in our military community.
This Holy Week and Easter season is a great time to see these principles at work in your military spouse life. Whether you are going through a deployment, a PCS move, or a challenging season in your marriage, your trials may seem easier when you approach them with faith.
Not sure where to start? I encourage you to go to a church service, even if it has been a while since you attended. The sermon may speak to your military life challenges. Or pick up any book written by a Christian military spouse. Sometimes just reading a few minutes from a devotional gives me the strength and perspective I need to face this crazy life.