Impressive in a sick way that three people can make soooooo mess and noise in only 15 minutes. Annoys me no end that he cannot manage for 15 minutes what I have to do day in day out.

Funny thing Is he smugly says to me housework and childcare is easy and not real work. But the moment he has to look after them for even 15 minutes or JUST do one task e.g. run them a bath he cannot cope! The bath time chore Is his but what a shambles he makes of that and that will take him 1 hour (I get at least 10 jobs done in that Time) – he doesn’t get any towels etc ready, doesn’t supervise them in the bath, doesn’t bother washing & drying their hair, won’t rinse the bath out, won’t put clothes on them and won’t hang the hand towel up (yes you heard right, he actually uses the bathroom hand towel to dry them as he could not be bothered to plan ahead and walk a few meters to get a clean bath towel from the cupboard) back up. Then he sulks with me as I haven’t “helped” him or told him what processes needs to be done (hello? It’s a bath, your only f**king task which you have done 100s of time, you should be a pro by now!) I did warn him all he has to do is the bath while I..WAIT FOR THIS…cook a home cooked dinner for four people, Set the table, put the toys away, light a candle, shut the curtains, pour the drinks and prep the dessert!!!! Note: these are the tasks I got done while he did their bath. Strange thing is He literally thinks all he has to do is put them in a bath and fails to do the pre-bath planning and aftermath. Then he will go on at about how much work he did today and expect a medal.

I gave these examples and there are many more as it means I will never be able to have a weekend away with friends or a day out as I wouldn’t trust my husband with the kids. That’s right a few times I had just half a day shopping and He would actually forget/not think to feed the kids despite the fact I have either left designated meals in the fridge or there is a big freezer full of easy to heat up oven food. He wont even feed the kids some easy snacks – crisps or give them a carton of drink…he claims he didn’t see the snacks, despite the fact he knows where they ARE when he wants to eat or drink them! He actually waits until I come back and expects me to prepare and serve the food. By the point I’m so cranky that I make the kids meal and say to hell with feeding him.

Can someone explain to me why my partner behaves in this feckless and selfish way the few times he looks after his own kids for even just 15 minutes?

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