Comments on: 19 Stupid Things People Say to Military Spouses

By: Sharona

Sharona — Sat, 30 Dec 2023 15:25:43 +0000

Thank you and your spouse for your military service and for protecting us. Sure you’ve heard these things and people are dolts.

By: Melissa AC Sheperd

Melissa AC Sheperd — Mon, 23 Oct 2023 03:16:22 +0000

Best thing ever said to me: “Wow! You’re not like any officer’s wife I’ve ever met.” And, really sad.

By: Melissa AC Sheperd

Melissa AC Sheperd — Mon, 23 Oct 2023 03:16:19 +0000

Best thing ever said to me: “Wow! You’re not like any officer’s wife I’ve ever met.” And, really sad.

By: Melissa AC Sheperd

Melissa AC Sheperd — Mon, 23 Oct 2023 03:13:31 +0000

A flag officer pulled me aside during attache training and said, “You are aware that you have a job to do also….You’d better be ready to put in 120%….If you’re not willing to do that, I’ll pull your husband and put someone else in that job….Oh, and you know that you don’t get paid, don’t you?”

By: Melissa AC Sheperd

Melissa AC Sheperd — Mon, 23 Oct 2023 03:10:43 +0000

At a base sponsored hiring event for service members, veterans, retirees, and spouses, a corporate hiring representative asked me, “Well, what exactly have you been doing for all these years? It’s not like you worked or anything.”
I had just finished over four years working for State Dept at US Embassies.

By: Melissa AC Sheperd

Melissa AC Sheperd — Mon, 23 Oct 2023 03:08:06 +0000

A civilian resilience trainer said between sessions — “Well, you just aren’t worth it.” I had asked about getting better medical care for family members who are stationed at remote hardship tours.

An AFAP representative told me that families don’t accompany the service member on hardship remote tours after I told him that we had just returned from our third hardship tour in eight years.

By: Melissa AC Sheperd

Melissa AC Sheperd — Mon, 23 Oct 2023 03:04:07 +0000

Thank your husband for his service and sacrifice for me. Then there was the man who pushed between me and my husband, turn his back on me, shake his hand and thanked him for his service and sacrifice.

By: Lizann

Lizann — Sun, 15 Oct 2023 11:51:18 +0000

In reply to David gutierrez.

Yes, thank you for that, those stereotypes dont help anyone. And best wishes to you for strength and support during deployment.

By: David gutierrez

David gutierrez — Sun, 15 Oct 2023 09:34:54 +0000

In reply to Doesn’t matter.

I understand this. My wife is in the Navy and just left on her deployment. I have been very fortunate to have the support that i do from programs, and from friends that i have made along the way. What I can’t stand are all the dumb comments i get from friends saying, “oh i bet you meet a lot of ‘lonely wives’ when your wife is gone”. Gimme a break. Just because some people have a lack of self control, doesn’t mean the rest of us do. We’re just trying to get by, and hope we can see our spouses sooner than later and be together as a family.

By: Debbie Williams

Debbie Williams — Fri, 15 Sep 2023 10:43:47 +0000

Worse I heard was that I didn’t need a man in my life. This was a supervisor talking to me after husband was deployed.