How to enjoy a military Ball

by | Oct 28, 2019 | Military Life, New Military Spouse | 0 comments

The problem: You are invited to a military Ball and aren’t sure what to expect. Keep reading because: I’ll put your mind at ease so you know the traditions, what to wear, and how to have fun!

The first time I went to a military Ball was 17 years ago, when my boyfriend (now my husband) invited me to his first unit’s Ball. Neither one of us had attended one before. When I asked “What should I wear?” his helpful answer was, “A dress, I guess.”

I was in college and hadn’t been to a formal event in years. I dug out a dress from a high school dance: crushed velvet with sparkly butterflies on the skirt. It was fine: full-length, covered all the appropriate places. I didn’t have any dressy shoes, so I wore boots. I figured they would be mostly covered by the gown anyway. But as soon as I walked into the room, I realized that my outfit was more like Homecoming than Prom. I wished I had known, and spent some time shopping for a slightly more formal dress.

“I wish I had known what type of dress to wear to my first Military Ball!” ~The Seasoned Spouse

Since then, I have probably attended about 10 Marine Corps Birthday Balls with my husband (I lost count). Most of them have been wonderful and fun. There have also been some awkward moments, like when some of our friends were already drunk before the ceremony started. Or when I flew out to the Ball and didn’t eat most of the day, so I was hangry waiting for dinner to be served!

Maybe you are a military girlfriend who just got your first invitation. Or maybe you have been a spouse for years and either never had a chance to attend, or avoided the Ball on purpose. Either way, I am here to help you feel comfortable and beautiful on Ball night, so you can make the most of this unique experience!

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What to wear to a military ball:

First, let me just say: This blog is about encouraging military spouses, not putting anyone down. I am not here to make fun of anyone’s dress choices or to waste time being jealous of a younger wife’s appearance. That’s not who I am. I want everyone to feel beautiful and confident at the Ball, because I know you will spend a lot of time and money getting yourself ready. So here’s the basic guidelines:

  • A military Ball is a formal event. Military members will be in their fanciest dress uniform. As a date, your attire should be equally formal. This generally means a full-length dress, not a shorter “cocktail length” dress. But it doesn’t need to be a puffy ball gown and have a train, either. I know, the rules are silly. I didn’t make them up– I’m just telling you what everyone else will be wearing! (The exception is a Navy Khaki Ball, which is a little less formal, so you can wear a shorter dress to the Khaki Ball.)
  • “Appropriate attire” is a different definition for everyone, but this is a work function, and you may meet your service member’s boss or commanding officer. We have also had Gold Star family members or Vietnam Veterans sitting at our table. So try to cover underwear, cleavage, and the midriff. If you have to ask, “Is this showing too much?” the answer is probably yes.
  • Wear something comfortable. This includes dress and shoes. You will be wearing it all night, doing lots of sitting, standing, and dancing. If your dress is so tight you can’t move, you’re not going to have as much fun. Also–bring a wrap or cover for your shoulders, because it gets cold outside!
  • Color doesn’t matter. Lots of people like to match the military uniform. But wearing a unique color will stand out and get lots of compliments too. The choice is yours!

“If you have to ask if the dress shows too much… the answer is probably yes.” ~The Seasoned Spouse

DO these things at a military Ball:

  • Eat something beforehand. The ceremony can be long, and dinner isn’t served until the ceremony and keynote speaker are finished. If you start drinking earlier in the day, you need food to balance that out.
  • Be prepared to spend some time alone. This event is for your service member. There are people they will want to greet or have conversations with. Or they may wait in line forever for drinks. Or they are occupied for the first hour because they are on the color guard. Don’t get mad, just make some friends at your table or find someone else to hang out with.
  • Follow directions about when to stand or sit. Be respectful. There is a whole ceremony before dinner with a flag procession, cake cutting, and guest speaker. This is the serious part of the evening, so just follow along with your service member.
  • Have fun! This is a night out with your date: laugh, make friends, dance, drink, etc.

how to have fun at a military ball

DON’T do these things at a Military Ball:

I’ve seen lots of mishaps at the Ball. Don’t be that guy (or that date) who is a public nuisance and falling out of your chair during the ceremony, picking fights, or throwing up in the bus on the way home. Yes, I have seen ALL of that!

  • Don’t drink too much! Please be responsible.
  • Don’t spend too much on a dress: You can always borrow from a friend or go to a giveaway near your base. Or use the FB pages to get a good deal!
  • Don’t get up and leave during the guest speaker: You are expected to remain in your seat for at least an hour during the ceremony. So visit the restroom ahead of time, and get a drink before you sit down.

What do you look forward to the most at a military ball?

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