I have been through numerous stressful situations as a military wife:

Military life has forced me into these stressful situations. Each time, even though I struggled, I also learned. I now know how to adapt to difficulties and how to find my inner strength when a situation feels impossible. As a Christian military spouse, it feels like I have been given a unique set of strengths to handle the stress and unpredictability of this life.

When I look back at all the crazy stressful situations we have been through, I realize that–in most cases–faith made things a little bit easier. Because I am a Christian military spouse, there are many times when my faith life has overlapped with my military spouse life. Both are a huge part of my identity. I think that it would be very hard for me to survive military life if I did not have faith to hold me together.

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Here are 5 ways having faith can help a military spouse

Five lessons a Christian military spouse knows:

  1. Religion is always a community:

    No matter what faith you practice, it is usually celebrated with others. This community can be a huge blessing to Christian military spouses when they arrive at a new duty station. If you stop by the local church or prayer group, you may immediately be invited to a few events and find yourself some new friends. Catholics have an added bonus–they can find a Catholic church anywhere in the world, and it will celebrate the same Mass they recognize from home. This was useful when we lived in Europe. I have attended church in several different languages, but I always knew what was happening and felt like part of the community.

  2. Patience is a virtue:

    Military life will certainly teach you to be patient! Christian military spouses have an advantage here: they have learned to be patient, generous with their time, and to have empathy for others. Military life has taught me a lot about trust and letting go, as we wait for orders and clean out the house for yet another PCS move. Christian military spouses learn to take those challenging moments and learn from them to become a better person.

  3. Trust makes sense of suffering:

    I heard this at church recently in regards to the suffering of Christ on the cross. I realized it is also true for the stress and anxiety surrounding deployments. There is physical and mental anguish when you are separated from your loved one and don’t know when you will hear from them or if they are okay. The only thing that can make this burden lighter is trust.

    I can trust that he is well trained and prepared for war. I can trust in his team and his unit. I must have faith in his commanders and trust that they will give good orders. I have to trust that he is safe and that I will see him again. Faith is the only thing that makes sense out of the suffering of deployments for a Christian military spouse.

    Want to know which bible verses are most encouraging during deployments? I have two pages of quotes in my Ultimate Deployment Guide, available here.
    These Bible verses are helpful for Christian military spouses

  4. We are in the world, not of it:

    In the Bible, Christians are reminded that even though they live in the world, they are not made for this earthly life. They are made for heaven. That is part of the reason Christians are encouraged not to focus on earthly treasure, titles, fame, and glory–they are only passing through this world, and those things won’t be important in heaven.

    Christian military spouses can relate to this. Whenever you move to a new base, you may live in the town, but you know that you are not from the town. In fact, you will probably leave it behind in a few years. We learn not to invest in souvenirs that can be easily broken during a move. Military spouses know from experience that people are worth more than things. This is one of Christianity’s tougher lessons, but military spouses learn it automatically after a few PCS moves.

  5. Offer it up:

    Military life requires a lot of sacrifices–from the military spouses who move and change jobs, and also from the kids who frequently change to new schools. Many people miss out on weddings, funerals, vacations, and family visits. It isn’t easy. It doesn’t seem fair. As we mourn all we are missing, it’s natural to wonder if all this suffering is worth it.

    As kids, any time we complained about being uncomfortable or things not being fair, our Christian parents told us to ‘offer it up.’ This is a way of encouraging someone to offer up their sufferings as a way to gain empathy or relieve the sufferings of others. In military life, we say ‘Suck it up, buttercup’ or ‘put on your big girl panties.’ The principle is the same, but the Christian version offers a reason for the suffering.

Our sacrifices can be useful to help others. If you have a horrible experience getting settled on a new base, don’t just suck it up. Try to offer it up to others–ask around for advice, offer to help other new families as a sponsor, or write a book with tips for moving to that installation. (That’s what I did for Naval Station Rota, Spain!) Our sacrifices are much easier to bear when we offer them up for others in our military community. You can also find encouragement and inspiration in my book,¬†Open When: Letters of Encouragement for Military Spouses.

Holy Week and Easter season is a great time to see these principles at work in your life. No matter what uncertainty and challenges are thrown at you, your trials may seem easier when you approach them with faith. I am here for you through all of this. WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER! Stay strong, and lean on your faith and your community to get you through this journey.


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